Join host Renae Johnson and Ernesto Martinez, APCC, AMFT, as they explore common challenges faced by queer folks, such as dealing with unsupportive family dynamics, managing expectations, and finding joy amidst potential disappointments. Ernesto emphasizes the importance of agency, self-care strategies like the 'care sandwich,' and the need for open, respectful conversations during family gatherings. The episode provides valuable insights and practical tips for maintaining mental health and fostering connections during the holidays.

Takeaways

• Holidays can bring mixed emotions and unexpected challenges.

• LGBTQ individuals have agency in their family relationships.

• It's okay to stay connected to unsupportive family members for various reasons.

• Expectations can be fluid and should be reassessed based on context.

• Disappointment can arise from unmet expectations, but context matters.

• Conversations should focus on understanding rather than convincing others.

• Using a scale to assess comfort levels can help navigate family dynamics.

• Finding joy and care is essential during the holiday season.

• Pre-care and aftercare can help manage anxiety around family gatherings.

• Chosen family plays a crucial role in supporting mental health.

Featured Queer Moment of Joy Guest: Crystal Whiteaker with Crystal Lily Creative. To learn more about Crystal visit https://www.crystallily.co/ or on Instagram @crystallilycreative

Therapist Bio: 

Ernesto Martinez APCC, AMFT (they/elle/he/el) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Ernesto specializes in working with Adults, Teens, & Parents of Gender Expansive Children, Adult Children of (im)Migrants to transform challenges into stepping stones towards self-compassion, fulfillment, and confidence.